SIGNS THAT HE IS ABOUT TO EXIT A LOVE DEAL

Love is a spiritual union. This insinuates that the partners are held together by a cord of compassion and selfless care for each other. The more the partners are into each other,the thicker the cord. The moment either starts showing less concern with the partner the cord starts getting corroded. At initial stage of a relationship, most partners are said to be in the blinding love. This is what I would call the usual honeymoon love. At this stage,the cord is usually so thick. The way couples treat each other, and even the compassionate feeling towards each other tells it all.

However, with time this great love tends to wear out gradually for reasons hard to unravel before the partner. The cord becomes thinner each day and finally the lovers falls off the connection:marking the end of love deal. So how do we avoid the pain of the thud of falling apart when the cord breaks? Its easy even to evade the pain of the unexpected break up. This can be done by noticing the obvious signals that tells..it will be over soon and thus running away before the trouble befalls you. Always watch-out for these sighs.

Elimination of the items on the do's list: During the hot stages of a relationship we get almost all pleasant things in the world done to you. The guy will try as much as possible to keep in touch;do frequent calling and texting, just to know how u are doing,spend time on picnics where u have your time outdoors. Here,couples spend the biggest part of their leisure time together. Constant reminders of how much they love you are always there. However,there comes a time when the guy tries to eliminate the items one after the other. Eventually,even communication alone becomes hard and when most items are eliminated,the ties gets so weak.

Withdrawal: This mostly happens due to constant gazes at the surrounding pastures;the chicks around the guy. At times,guys tend to get into a relationship with a great vigour but still can't hold themselves from eyeing the chicks around them. This goes to an extent of the guy getting the guts of trying to “ingisha” every Jane and Shiku into his box. Guys forget that after all,they can't accommodate all the cute ladies they come across. If anything,they forget that the more they become 'viruka' the more they can’t concentrate on their core relationship and this leads to it’s silent death. In this case, a guy loses gold in pursuit of diamonds.

Criticism : in this case am referring to corrosive criticism. All people make mistakes but its all about how those mistakes are interpreted and handled . At the worst, these criticism brings in an implication that it's one of the partners who is wrong. For instance , your guy can always criticize you for poor selection of hair style, bad hair splays, poor makeups, poor dressing habit,improperly cooked food, never doing right things like nit calling and texting in time . all these insinuate that you are bad or always wrong at some deeper levers. Repeated criticism that strikes the heart of the other person signals the end or relationship.

Contempt: these are whatever things that makes a person fill worthless. For example , when a mistake arises and your guy makes you feel that it was foolish of you to make such a simple mistakes. This is also revealed by him not appreciating you. For example, a guy may not introduce you to people who matters because of the fear that they may start backbiting him for being associated with you. In this era of social media, your guy may not complement the lover's publicity or comment on her post : just trying to hide everything so that any linkage between the two is not revealed.

Defensiveness : this is when they are always there to make excuses for their failures or slip ups. People do this automatically from time to time but when it become a persistent theme is a relationship it marks the end. For example your guy doesn't text or call you for a week. When you finally calls, he says that he were sick yet he used to appear on social media. Others claim they are too broke to get some credit. “ Seriously for a whole month somebody argues such?” . Others will give excuses that they were waiting to see you do the thing instead, such situations even worsen when partners are also trying to score points off the other on top of being defensive. For example, he brings in an argument “if I couldn't do it, why then couldn't you do it”?

Stone walling : this is when your partner raises the draw bridge and cuts off communication. There are no nodes of encouragement to you when they speak, no

attempt to empathize and no effort to respond or connect, this worsens the situations because lack of communication never solves the problems at the heart of a relationship. The worst this can lead to is a breakup because there is so much that is hidden in silence and silence gives the worst answers to any rhetoric questions.

love is a partnership which is subject to dissolution when conditions get tough , its not worth waiting until the split comes along after a long time of heartaches , it's easy to note when the interest is diminishing. Therefor when it get to the worst its worth saving yourself the heartbreak by breaking up before the breakup comes.