MYSTERY OF LOVE

MYSTERY OF LOVE

Love is a basic human emotion but something understanding how and why it happens is not necessarily easy. Many people suggest that love is simply something too mysterious and spiritual for scientists to fully understand. However, research by many researchers and psychologists gives ways to describe love and other emotional attachments by use of theories.

 

Liking versus loving: This theory posits that love is made up of three elements i.e. attachment, care, and intimacy. Attachment is needed to receive care, approval, and physical contact with the other person. Caring involves valuing the other person's needs and happiness as much as your own. Intimacy refers to the sharing of thoughts, desires, and feelings with the other person.

 

Compassionate versus passionate love: These are the two types of love. Compassionate love is characterized by mutual respect accompanied by, attachment, affection, and trust. It usually develops out of feelings of mutual understanding and sharing respect for one another. On the other hand, passionate love is characterized by intense emotions, sexual attraction, anxiety, and affection. When these intense emotions are reciprocated, people feel elated and fulfilled. Unreciprocated love leads to feelings of despondence and despair. Passionate love is transitory usually lasting between six and thirty months.

 

Passionate love arises when cultural expectations encourage falling in love when the person needs your preconceived ideas of an ideal love and when you experience heightened physiological arousal in person. Ideally, passionate love leads to compassionate love is far more enduring, while most people desire relationships that combine security and stability of compassion with the intensity of passionate love which is rare.

 

The color wheel model of love: Just as it is in the color wheel where we have three primary colors that are used to form other types of colors. The same applies to love. Three basic styles of love later combine to form nine different secondary love styles. The three primary styles are loving an ideal person, love as a game, and love as friendship. The secondary styles are obsessive love, realistic and practical love, and selfless love.

 

Triangular theory: It suggests that love has three components; intimacy, passion, and commitment. Different components of these three components result in different types of love. For instance, a combination of intimacy and commitment results in compassionate love. On the other hand, a combination of passion and intimacy leads to passionate love.

 

From the analysis, it’s worth realizing that relationships built from a combination of two or more elements are more enduring. This is opposed to those based upon a single component. Choose the love that you want wisely before falling for a phony lover.

 

THE PINNACLE OF PROSTITUTION IN KENYA

PINNACLE OF PROSTITUTION IN KENYA

The flesh-selling business has been and is still thriving in Kenya no matter how much it has been castigated. It has always been discouraged, its consequences unmasked and those involved in it bedamned all over. However, various characters still conduct this business for their reasons. In our country, girls subjected to poverty at a tender age are the main victims of this act. However, we still find a few from well-up backgrounds who just find themselves into it mostly due to greed for easy-come gains. Moreover, we also have male prostitutes. These take the forms of gays and gigolos.

K Street night times

The booming trade in sex takes various forms in Kenya. Tourism sex is the most popular and it goes on with Kenya tourism's full knowledge. The sector fears losing the hundreds of thousands of tourists who come to Kenya thus allow it to continue despite the ruin it does to our young Kenyans. Kenyan cities especially Nairobi are the leading centers of the flesh-selling business. In Nairobi, we have around 13675 female sex workers operating along red light streets as well as prestigious pubs and restaurants. K. Street is mainly recognized for this. Many whores have moved to hover around Westlands road areas as well as Moi Avenue, simmers of Kenyatta Avenue, club barrels, Sabina joy, etc. These prostitutes charge as low as around Ksh. 250 per round and Ksh. 800 per night.

Nairobi street where under red lights business thrive

Currently we have commercial sex targeting boys. Despite the fact that homosexuality is largely considered a taboo and repugnant to the culture and morality of Kenya, there are many male sex workers in Nairobi especially along Kirinyaga road and in pubs around the area. We have around 4000 male flesh sellers around Nairobi selling at around 10000 per night without protection and 5000 per night with protection. The same has been trending along the coast where tourists go for young boys to serve them from which they earn a living.

 

These days, prostitution has become much of on line enterprise. The Kenyan blog sphere has just recently been graced by digital prostitution. For instance, we have Nairobi xxx, Nairobi raha, Nairobi call girls and Kenya raha which are used to market flesh sellers. Global adult content has been growing day by day and Kenya has jumped on the bandwagon. Escorts advertise on personal websites like face book and Instagram and hook up on social sites and later on end up meeting the interested clients.

 

Looking at the consequences of the flesh selling trade, we have denial of rights which the victims of prostitution are subject to. For instance, everyone has right to protection from sexual abuse. However, circumstances has led to many families in Kenya allowing their children to get into prostitution at a very tender age in order to get money as it is such a profitable activity. These young children, lose their rights at a young age and as they grow older they are denied rights to develop at a natural pace. Harlots in Kenya involve themselves in a risky lottery with infections like H.I.V and other STIs. This is because some clients stubbornly denounce use of protection. Bruises and fractured bones too are some of risks involved and consequently interference with excretory system where the tip of digestive system loosens and then the victim is unable to hold their stool which necessitates use of pampers.